The Lyft Driver

One of the first guys I was crushing following my move out West, was a college educated Que from Cali working Lyft and Uber full-time. In the beginning everything was copacetic. We spent time periodically (or schedule permitting) — cooking, watching sports together, cuddling, sexing and being complete homebodies enjoying each other’s space and energy until… the switch up! Long story short “Mr. Lyft Driver” started acting distant and proceeded to end things between us via Snapchat because he said, “he didn’t want to date someone without their own place.” Fellas — why is it that (some of) y’all lack the capacity to be straightforward with women face to face? Are y’all fearful of how we’ll react or feel as a result? Personally, “the sexiest men are the ones who make their intentions known so that women don’t have to waste their time stressing about mixed messages or second-guessing themselves.” According to Direct Dating Coach Sasha Daygame, men who aren’t assertive lack confidence, are insecure, afraid of commitment, struggle to communicate their emotions accurately and have no problem wasting women’s time (especially if that means side-stepping an uncomfortable conversation). Sasha also states that indirect or passive men have no solid plan, clear intentions and make dating for women feel more exhausting instead of fun; because of the constant mind fuck of trying to guess how y’all men folk feel. In closing, women are more attracted to men who will not beat around the bush and BE DIRECT regardless of fearing rejection or an adverse reaction. If any, please leave your thoughts or comments.